WHY IS A LITTLE ‘ME TIME’ IMPORTANT WHEN YOU’RE A PARENT?
By Lisamarie Lamb
For many people, feeling that they want some ‘me time’, a few minutes to themselves to recharge and forget about day to day life can lead to feelings of guilt and the worry they might be behaving selfishly.
But that’s not right – taking time out from our lives every now and then, putting ourselves back together by being away from the trials and tribulations (no matter how big or small) of normal life, enjoying some treats in the form of a pampering massage, a facial, a walk in the countryside, a new haircut, an hour alone with a good book, and plenty of other superb ideas is important.
If we want to be patient, good parents, if we want to be supportive partners, if we want to be productive at work, then taking this time out is not only a good idea, it is essential.
Why else does me time help?
We all want to look after our loved ones and be there for them, and this is one of the reasons that we sometimes put that precious me time to one side. But actually, taking time out for yourself makes everything else much easier to deal with. Stepping back means you can step forward again with renewed vigour and energy. We are then in a better position, feeling healthier, happier and energised, and anyone who then needs us to help them will get the best of us.
Why do we always leave our own needs to one side? Why do we think it’s a weakness to look after ourselves? It’s not – it’s vitally important to respect yourself and ensure that you are well looked after. Without your health, without your happiness, what else do you have? Nothing at all – life is meant to be enjoyed, and lived to the fullest, and being miserable because you are feeling down and neglected is not going to help with that.
Allowing yourself to be pampered and giving yourself license to stop for just a while will put you back on the right track. If you are always doing things for others, it’s time to do something for yourself. And the great thing is, it can be absolutely anything. You don’t even have to leave the house if you’re happier there. If you do go out and about you don’t have to spend any money either – a walk in the park is free, and it can clear your mind and ease your body dramatically.
Do people really know themselves these days? Do people really understand who they are, and what they want? Possibly not. It might be that we are just doing things because we assume that’s what we think others want us to do. It’s what’s expected of us. But is it what we really want?
Being able to have some me time means finally being able to listen to yourself, and discover more about you. You might find that you are perfectly content and happy with your life exactly as it is, or you might find that actually there is something you have always wanted to do, but have not done it because you don’t think it’s ‘you’.
Be open to self-growth. Be aware of your own being. It could change everything.
Digest the Problems
It doesn’t matter what it is, or why it’s an issue, the truth is that everyone has problems. We just don’t like to admit it. And because we don’t like to admit it, we don’t tend to be able to get to the bottom of it all – we don’t ask for advice. But perhaps we don’t need to.
If we take time out for ourselves and let our minds relax for a little while, the answer to those problems that seemed so big might just come to us – and suddenly they may not be so big after all.
Even if we don’t emerge from our me time with all the answers, at the very least we will be re-energised and ready to face our issues head on once more.
What’s your favourite way to indulge in a little ‘me time’?